the impact of being let down

Tonight i have been thinking about the impact people have on others when they let other people down. If a person has been consistantly let down over the years, they tend to put up a safety zone around them, allowing people in to a certain point however not fully trusting them, so that they won't get hurt when they are let down. These people may not show how much they have been hurt by someone letting them down that day, but they are hurt... and if that person has a low self esteem, it feeds into to the negetive view point which they have of themselves.
I have seen the effects of being let down on both sides... through out my life i have been let down numberous times, now most of the time i can understand why and see the real reason. However, that doesn't stop the enemy poking around and linking the current issue with the hurts from the past in this area... It sucks.... I hate it..... I hate him.... But Jesus is the mighty comforter, and He shows us the truth... He tells us who we are if we stop and listen...
Sometimes we need to tell others what Christ thinks of them, especially if we know people who are struggling in their faith, and also with low self esteem, cause they may not be listening to God telling them who they are.